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Let’s talk about stress and burnout.

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Neli`s Georgieva`s guest post. She is the author of the book You Are Beautiful, Darling: A First-Aid Kit for Stressed-Out Women.

“Burnout is nature’s way of telling you, you’ve been going through the motions, your soul has departed; you’re a zombie, a member of the walking dead, a sleepwalker. False optimism is like administrating stimulants to an exhausted nervous system.”

-Sam Keen-

Burnout incidences rise exponentially. These statistics have been proven scientifically.

Many people suffering from burnout are ambitious and results-driven. They are perfectionists. They do not like to fail expectations: either their own or the expectations of the people around them. It is normally people who never believed that burnout could become their problem. They noticed the stress, they noticed the tension, but they ignored their own body’s signals: because we are failures if we do not perform.

Women who try to juggle job and family life with kids are particularly susceptible to burnout when they want to live up to all the expectations put on them: be a perfect mother, be good at your job, have a 90-60-90 body, be a great wife… (Fill in the dots). We try to fulfil all of these expectations and be great at each area of our lives.

So, when you can’t get out of bed because of depression and/or burnout, when you can’t bear the pressure of all this: then you are a BIG FAILURE. This is how we think. Do you see the vicious cycle here?

I have come to believe that we need to learn to follow a healthy rhythm. A rhythm that does not lead to stress and back pain. But first we need to learn what is good for us and for our bodies. And then follow through – both in our work and private lives. You still can’t say “no” to your boss who wants you to stay in the office until 10 p.m.? Or accept behaviours from your egocentric friends that you do not agree with just to keep up the peace?

You would have to develop a habit of setting healthy boundaries and putting your own needs first. You can only be respected and appreciated by others if you respect and appreciate yourself first. And if you still do not get the respect that you deserve in your current environment, you would need the courage to move on and surround yourself with people who really appreciate you.

Once you find yourself in the company of supportive friends and a team-oriented company culture, you can feel much better about yourself. It is just as easy to feel good about ourselves in the company of supporting and uplifting people as it is to feel bad about ourselves if we are constantly put down and criticized, or have to deal with unrealistic expectations.

About the author: Neli Georgieva is the author of the book “You Are Beautiful, Darling: A First-Aid Kit for Stressed-Out Women”. The book is available in print and as an e-book on Amazon and Balboa Press. As an academic and a rational person, Neli searched for and applied a down-to-earth, practical approach to spirituality for the purposes of this book. With her curiosity and love for self improvement topics, she believes she has found a practical method to reduce stress and anxiety in the lives of busy women. With the help of this book, modern ladies will be able to let go of their worries and come back to the core of their femininity.

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